Life experiences are both big and important. They occupy a fair amount of your energies;  you may resist, battle with them and agonise over the conflicting feelings about them for what seems like eternity.  Then, you finally reach the point when you say to yourself, “Enough, no more, time is right now!” And you take a leap for better or worse.

Can you identify emotions that run your life?

Shame – early traumatic events (abuse, abandonment), judgmental society, physical imperfections, sexual orientation, unconventional behaviours can lead to feelings of shame; situations that deal with shame will likely create many problems with self-acceptance; this is one of the reasons why the shames creates psychological reversal; it is the most destructive energy level often leading to self-sabotaging behaviours.

Guilt – people whose energy dropped to the level of guilt develop manipulative and/or punishing personalities; they behave as they are victims, and blame is one of their primary weapons. Those who have unconscious guilt or feel responsible for a traumatic situation suffer from psychosomatic diseases.

Apathy – this is a state of helplessness where external energy is sought from caregivers. People operating from this level of energy are often felt to be a burden by those around them as they are very needy and may discuss their problems endlessly.

Grief – those who operate from this energetic level are living the life of regret and depression. Grief is also the energy level of losers and chronic gamblers, who accept failure as integral part of their lifestyle.

Fear – in a healthy way fear protect us from danger; as a continual state of being it can lead to jealousy, chronically high stress, or a fear of success. It also limits growth of personality because so much energy is expend on dealing with fears.

Desire – desire for money and power dictates many people‘s lives and helps to drive the economy; it is also the energetic level of addictions, where satisfying a craving becomes more important than any other goals. Unfortunately as soon as one desire is satisfied another often quickly replaces it.

Anger – energy at this level can be constructive or destructive; anger may cause people to abandon problem situation or deal with them. As a lifestyle anger expresses itself as resentment or revenge. Angry people are irritable and explosive, can easily fall into a rage and tend to distance others from themselves.

Pride – people feel positive as they reach the level of pride, as they have attained some level of accomplishment in their lives. If pride originates exclusively from external factors the inflated ego is vulnerable. Also if a loss of status occurs in regard to pride, this energetic level can quickly move toward shame. (This is not healthy pride.)

 

Highest energetic emotional levels

Courage – At this level the world starts to look exciting, challenging and stimulating. It begins with the process of empowerment and the ability to cope and handle the opportunities that life presents to us. It brings out the capacity to face fear or our own character defects and grow in spite of them.

Neutrality – at this point the world is seen as a complex and changing place without simple answer or rigid positions. The world is no longer viewed as black and white. To be neutral means that not getting one’s way is no longer experienced as defeating and frustrating. Rather the view is “If I didn’t get this, then I’ll get something else. Life has its ups and downs and I’ll be okay if I roll with the punches.” People at this level are easy to get along with and aren’t interested in conflicts.

Willingness – people at this level are genuinely friendly, and social and economic success is a part of their life. They have ability to overcome inner resistance and do not have any major learning blocks. Having, let go of pride originating from external forces, they are willing to look at their own defects and learn from others.

Acceptance – this is the level where there is a realization that the source of happiness is within self. Love is not something that is given or taken by another rather is created from within. Long-term goals take precedence over short-term goals. Self-discipline and mastery are prominent aspects of these personalities